4 Ways God Mends Our Heart After Sadness
Do you have a broken heart from some kind of loss? God mends our heart after sadness.
I’m no stranger to a hurting heart. You know, the kind that aches and feels shattered into a thousand pieces.
I experienced loss when my father and friends passed away, the loss of beloved pets, and even a baby in utero.
Oh, there are many kinds of loss in our present broken world.
No doubt you’ve experienced some form of loss in your life.
Recently, we remembered the thousands of lost lives and loved ones affected by the sad events on 9/11.
And we also mourned the murder of Charlie Kirk. Charlie touched countless lives for the gospel of Jesus Christ and so many moral issues in culture. These issues are biblical as well. Let’s continue to pray for his family and loved ones.
Mends Our Heart
Perhaps your broken heart came from losing a pet, a loved one, a relationship, or a marriage.
Even though I’m not a stranger to heart break, I’m also not a stranger to the One who mends broken hearts. The One who has healed and mended my broken heart many times over. Especially after sadness.
Sure, life itself may never be the same again after some sadness, but God never changes and He wants to mend our broken hearts as only He can.
4 ways God mends our heart.
M – Mourn authentically and fully for our heart.
Once, a local Christian radio host gave a challenge, “Stop sanitizing grief.” Sometimes we sanitize grief and mourning and broken hearts by trying to clean it up. But this is not how God meant for us to react to a great loss.
When my father died, I went to a good Christian counselor. And she has seen me through other seasons of brokenness. Remember, it doesn’t make us weak to need help, it makes us human. We were never created to bear burdens alone.
Do you have a broken heart from some kind of loss? Take time to mourn. Seek counsel, spend time with friends, ask for prayer, and cry out to the Lord—maybe like never before. Share on XTake time to mourn. Seek counsel, spend time with friends, ask for prayer, and cry out to the Lord—maybe like never before. In the Bible, the Psalmists and others cried out, mourned, and lamented to God.
“Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted.” Matthew 5:4 (ESV)
E – Embrace inner healing from God.
God desires to bind up our wounds and this includes a broken heart. “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” Psalm 147:3 (ESV)
The Lord wants us to run to His strong, capable, and comforting arms for peace and inner healing.
The Lord wants us to run to His strong, capable, and comforting arms for peace and inner healing. Share on X
“Surely he has borne our griefs and carried our sorrows; yet we esteemed him stricken, smitten by God, and afflicted. But he was pierced for our transgressions; he was crushed for our iniquities; upon him was the chastisement that brought us peace, and with his wounds we are healed.” Isaiah 53:4-5 (ESV)
N – Nurture our body and heart.
“My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.” Psalm 76:23 (NIV)
Although we don’t have control over circumstances, we do control how we take care of ourselves. We need physical food for our body and spiritual nourishment from the Holy Spirit and God’s Word for our heart.
And we must fill our heart with truth from God for true healing.
Look up verses on healing in the Bible and keep them close. Or, better yet, memorize them to dwell deep in your heart.
D – Discover ways to help others.
This often sounds surprising and seems to jeopardize our own healing. Yet, one of the most wonderful ways to progress in letting God mend our hearts is by giving back.
Especially if it’s helping someone walk through the same heartbreaking season we have walked through—those who come after us. But not until we are ready and have mourned, embraced healing, and nurtured ourselves.
“My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.” Psalm 76:23 (NIV) Share on XThe Lord Mends Our Heart
Mourn authentically and fully.
Embrace inner healing from God.
Nurture our body and heart.
Discover ways to help others.
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Grief should never be sanitized, but fully embraced in order that we heal in God’s time. I love your reflection here, Karen, on what it means to mend in the Lord. God bless you!
Thank you, Martha. May we continue to run to our Lord for the healing and comfort and peace we need in this broken and hurting world. God bless!
I’m thankful that even though my heart is broken because of losing my sister to pancreatic cancer on May 2, 2025, I can rest in the presence and loving arms of God. He comforts the brokenhearted. Thank you for this precious message. Have a blessed weekend. 🙂
Thanks for sharing your experience with loss, Melissa. My heart goes out to you in losing your sister. I can’t imagine. Grateul the Lord is our sure comfort and peace and walks with us in our grief. God bless!
I’ve learned to give God my grief because He is the only one who can help me with it. I can’t imagine grief without Him in my life. Thanks Karen.
Yvonne, I really don’t know how others make it without the hope we have in Christ. God bless.
I’ve been hurting inside since the assassination of Charlie Kirk and the way our nation has reacted.. You are right that God can and does help us through ALL kinds of grief. He understands completely.
Yes, we continue to pray for a spiritual awakening for our nation. Thanks for leaving your thoughts.
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Karen, thank you for this beautiful, comforting, and helpful teaching. So needed at this time of sorrow for the Kirk family and for our nation. I’m still processing the loss of such a special Christian young man, husband, father, and voice of reason based on biblical truth. May God be our hope and strength. I’m praying for a great revival from this loss. God bless you, Karen!
Melissa, I’m praying for a great spiritual awakening and revival, too. Even in the funeral for Charlie Kirk, we saw and heard the beginnings of that in the speakers and how large the audience who clearly heard the gospel message shared.
Thank you, Karen, for the helpful acronym, MEND, in the aftermath of trauma, disappointment, or upheaval. I too am so thankful we have a God who draws especially near to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18). I can’t imagine facing the pain of this world without him. Erika Kirk is a stellar example of the difference Christ makes when we’re faced with the unthinkable.
Erika is a wonderful example of Christ in us, the hope of glory (Col.1:27). I often say the same thing, how do people face the unthinkable in life without the hope of Christ, He’s the only sure hope to cling to in the darkness. God bless.
I love this!
“Even though I’m not a stranger to heart break, I’m also not a stranger to the One who mends broken hearts.”
That’s good, girl! So thankful this is true for all who turn to Him…
So grateful for the Mender of broken hearts and broken people. God bless, Amy!
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