In school, I sometimes struggled in math. I mastered basic arithmetic. And as an abstract thinker, I soared in Geometry. Yet theorems of Algebra threw me for a loop. I wondered if any of it applied in a practical way to life.
So for this article, let’s stick with the basics.
What’s the only way two of anything becomes one? We take one away. Right?
Two take away one equals one (2-1=1). In mathematics, it works with apples or dogs or numbers.
But Scripture sheds a bright light on the concept in marriage. “The two will become one. So they are no longer two, but one” Mark 10:8 NLV.
God’s teaching on marriage shows the answer always equals one. Unified for one purpose paints a picture of the bride of Christ, the church. Jesus taught His followers to be one as He and the Father are one. But how does this happen in marriage?
Marriage Math: 2 Become 1
First, we need to jump back to the preceding verses. “From the beginning of the world, God made them man and woman. Because of this, a man is to leave his father and mother and is to live with his wife. The two will become one” Mark 10:6-8a NLV.
Leave and live…leave parents and live with each other.
Two come together. Yet, they merge into one. They not only become one in the sexual sense but also on other levels.
As an ordained minister, my husband, Mike, performs marriage ceremonies. And once he mistakenly said, “one will become two.” Sadly, it’s often our mindset going into marriage. One plus one equals two (1+1=2).
Simple math addition. But marriage is never simple. It often turns into a difficult math problem, hard for us to calculate the answer. Still, God bases His marriage equation on oneness.
How do we become one from two? We are two different people with unique childhood experiences, personal interests, and individual ideas on life and family issues.
Only a few weeks after our wedding, my husband and I began competing in oneness tug-of-wars. We often butted heads on important decisions. Both of us even wanted our way in trivial issues. And the aftermath left us wounded, tattered, and wondering how to do this thing, two become one.
Why do we call the marital bond, holy matrimony. What makes it holy?
Mike and I desired to be holy and we tried to become one…to be one in union…one in every decision and issue. But we both carried past baggage that got in the way. Because every time we attempted to move forward, we tripped over those unpacked bags.
Perhaps we tried too hard. Or, maybe the answer lies in our effort. When marriage becomes a tug-of-war, we’ve attempted to do the work of the Holy Spirit.
The bottom line: we missed this vital aspect.Jesus is the Holy One in holy matrimony. #marriage #blogger Click To Tweet
The sum of One
Over the years, Mike and I received both high marks and less than passing grades in marriage math class. Married and in ministry for thirty-two years, we continue to learn about oneness.
According to Cambridge Dictionary, the suffix “-ness” is added to adjectives to form nouns that refer to a quality or a condition. So, one-ness refers to the state of something. In marriage, it comes from and through God.
And it doesn’t mean we sit down and do nothing. It must be intentional on the part of the husband and wife or the relationship will falter under the ideas of separate or mine. Separate bank accounts or separate lives where individual interests and personal achievements turn into a priority.
A state where neither husband or wife encourage or celebrate togetherness. There’s that suffix ness again.
Two will become one in holy matrimony…in body, soul, and spirit. In body by the sexual union. And one in spirit through spiritual values and connecting with God. Soul oneness by becoming soul-mates in sync with life issues and family living.
For two to become one, take “me” away and add Jesus. “Me” steps aside for “we.”Husband + wife + Jesus = one #marriage #writer Click To Tweet
Want more on marriage? Read my article, 5 Ways to Never Give Up on Marriage.
© 2017 by Karen Friday, All Rights Reserved
Images or design courtesy of Adobe Spark.
July 6, 2017 at 10:03 am | Uncategorized