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The Gratitude Dare: Cultivating Grateful Hearts

The Gratitude Dare: Cultivating Grateful Hearts, Photo by Kylie Paz on Unsplash

It’s that time of year. We know how the season is supposed to go down. Besides pumpkin pie and turkey, we are encouraged to cultivate attitudes of gratitude.

Such as these 4 attitudes.

Count our blessings.

Be thankful.

Express our gratefulness.

Show our generosity.

And maybe we do and are these things during Thanksgiving. Perhaps some of us manage to pull it off most of November or even the entire year. 

But when we look at this list, do we think of our lives, our family, and more importantly, our God?

Because sometimes I epitomize these attitudes and other times not so much. A few years ago, as I reflected on gratitude, God spoke to my heart. 

Grateful people are generous people. Generous people are grateful people. 

It proves true with me. When gratefulness rises in my heart, I’m more generous with my money and time and service. Likewise, when my generosity bubbles over on others, gratefulness swells in my soul.

Then, I express gratitude for what the Lord has given me and for the great things He has done. I realize I’m blessed beyond measure.

Grateful people are generous people. Generous people are grateful people. #gratitude #grateful Click To Tweet

Yet, how do we cultivate attitudes of gratitude in all the areas of our lives, for the people in our lives, and for the God who gives us life? Even further, are gratitude, generosity, and thanksgiving possible January through December—not just during November or on Thanksgiving Day?

And where do we start? Let’s use the list in the introduction and unpack each one.

(1.) Count Our Blessings

Everyone brace yourselves. This is going to blow our minds! The Lord provides:

  • His children’s basic physical needs. 
  • Our people like our spouse, children, extended family, friends, and Himself in the three persons of the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit.
  • Our skills (jobs), talents, spiritual gifts, and identity in Christ. 
  • Eternal life, abundant life, and life itself…the very breath in our lungs.
  • Every spiritual blessing. “Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us in Christ with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly places” (Ephesians 1:3). While it’s not an exhaustive list, these include: amazing grace, never-ending mercy, unconditional and undying love, unsurpassed peace, real hope, authentic faith, unwavering truth (the Bible), overflowing joy, God’s fullness for our emptiness, and the Lord’s goodness, kindness, and compassion. 

Dare I say if we counted our blessings, really made a list, our mouths may gape open and our hearts fill with gratitude. So…go ahead…make a list. Count your blessings. I dare you.

The Gratitude Dare: Cultivating Grateful Hearts, Photo by Jakob Owens on Unsplash

(2.) Be Thankful

Psalm 100 exclaims a thankfulness to the Lord. Look at verse 4, “Enter his gates with thanksgiving, and his courts with praise! Give thanks to him; bless his name!” The psalm paints a picture of thankfulness for God’s goodness and mercy in our lives and so much more. 

And thanksgiving often changes our perspective. Whether life is going great or we are walking through hardships. Thanking God for all He’s done and all He will do helps cultivate an attitude of gratitude. 

Why not thank God for everyone and everything He’s given us? After we make our count-my-blessings list, verbally and prayerfully thank God for each one.

Enter his gates with thanksgiving, and his courts with praise! Give thanks to him; bless his name! Psalm 100:4 #gratitude #Thankful Click To Tweet

(3.) Express Our Gratefulness 

Recently, I told a friend I was grateful for her friendship. Yet, when was the last time I expressed those same sentiments to family members and to the Lord? Some examples: 

  • A spouse, “Honey, I’m so grateful you’re in my life and for all you mean to our family.”
  • Children, “I thank the Lord He allowed me to be your mother. You are special to me.”
  • Friends, “Your encouragement in my life and my Christian walk means more than you know. Grateful for you.”
  • God, “Lord, I stand amazed at Your craftsmanship in me as Creator, Your faithfulness and care to me as Father, Your voice and direction to me as Guide, Your revelation and wisdom to me as Truth, and Your redemption and protection for me as Rescuer and Deliverer. Thank You, Lord. I’m so grateful.”

(4.) Show Our Generosity

As already established, our gratefulness directly affects our generosity. Therefore, we ask ourselves if we are generous with our time, money, service, love, spiritual gifts, and forgiveness.

Do we show these acts of generosity to our family, church family, friends, neighbors, community, and the least of these—hungry, thirsty, naked, sick, and imprisoned—as defined in Matthew 25?

Yes, it’s that time of year. But take the Gratitude Dare to cultivate a grateful heart all year long. 

I dare you.

Take the 'Gratitude Dare' to cultivate a grateful heart: Count our blessings. Be thankful. Express our gratefulness. Show our generosity. #gratitude #grateful Click To Tweet

Which attitude of gratitude comes easily for you? Which one is most difficult? 

*Scripture references ESV.

The Gratitude Dare: Cultivating Grateful Hearts, Photo by Jakob Owens on Unsplash

More on gratefulness in my blog post, Grateful Gobbling: Finding God in Thanksgiving.

*Sometimes I participate in these link-ups:

Legacy Linkup/Inspire Me Monday/Kingdom Bloggers/Literacy Musings/Tell His Story/Purposeful Faith/Abounding Grace/Tea and the Word/Welcome Heart/Recharge Wednesday/Porch Stories/Destination Inspiration/Worth Beyond Rubies/Tune in Thursday/Sitting Among Friends/Heart Encouragement/Embracing the Unexpected/Fresh Market Friday/Faith On Fire/Dance With Jesus and Faith and Friends.


© 2019 by Karen Friday, All rights reserved


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November 7, 2019 at 8:30 am | Uncategorized


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Yvonne Morgan says:

Great post and a wonderful list for me to remember every day but especially as we prepare for Thanksgiving. I will take your challenge and try to be better with my gratitude all year long. Thanks.

Karen says:

Thanks, Yvonne. I pray we cultivate grateful and generous hearts all year long!

Thanking God for His blessings. One of those blessings is you. 🙂

Karen says:

Melissa, when we consider the vast and countless amount of blessings God has given us, why would we not want to really thank the Lord or hoard it all to ourselves and not generously give to others?! And thanks for the kind words, you bless me!

Cathy Baker says:

I love this post, Karen! What great reminders of God’s blessings, large and small, if a distinction exists. Thanking God for YOU today, sweet friend!

Karen says:

So glad this encouraged you, Cathy. I hope we really take the Gratitude Dare to cultivate a grateful heart: Count our blessings. Be thankful. Express our gratefulness. Show our generosity.

And I’m thankful for you too!

Robin L. says:

This was inspirational! In the past two years, I’ve been more conscious of showing my gratitude to family members. Also, as a wife, I believe that it’s important to compliment small things and show that we notice what our husbands are doing (as opposed to the stereotype of the nagging wife, who only looks for things to criticize).

Karen says:

Thank you, Robin. Appreciate you sharing your thoughts. We all need to be more conscious of showing gratitude not only to the Lord, but to others. And our husband should be at the top of our list. I want to be a grateful wife, not the nagging one. 🙂

Karen, I’m a firm believer in nurturing a Gratitude Attitude each and every day. Usually, my first words to God in the morning are, “Thank you!” I do count my blessings with regularity, and I’ll agree, that being grateful does increase our desire to be generous with the gifts God has given us.
Blessings!

Karen says:

That’s awesome, Martha, how you thank the Lord first thing every morning. And to count our blessings on a regular basis…even better! “Enter his gates with thanksgiving, and his courts with praise! Give thanks to him; bless his name!” Psalm 100:4. Thankful for your encouraging comments.

Wonderful post Ms. Karen. Isn’t it funny how God works? As hard as I try, I can never out give Him. The more I do, the more I give, the more joy and blessings He brings into my life. Wonderful lessons to learn my friend. Know that I am grateful for your willingness to stand up and be counted for His kingdom. God’s blessings ma’am.

Karen says:

So true, J.D. We can’t outgive God or outdo the blessings He has given each of us. “Lord, we stand amazed at Your craftsmanship in us as Creator, Your faithfulness and care to us as Father, Your voice and direction to us as Guide, Your revelation and wisdom to us as Truth, and Your redemption and protection for us as Rescuer and Deliverer. Thank You, Lord. We’re so grateful.” God bless,J.D.

It’s easy for me to think about how grateful I am for the people in my life. I have to remember to express that gratitude in words not just thoughts. Great reminder, Karen. I’m grateful for your posts! 🙂 They are full of wisdom!

Karen says:

You make a great point, Marcie. We do sometimes think about being grateful but don’t express thankfulness to others. Always appreciate your comments and your writing, too.

Karen, I loved this message! I never grow tired of reminders to pause and simply be grateful to God for His many blessings He showers upon us. It makes my heart well up with joy and love toward our loving Father. Thank you for this beautiful reminder and for the specific examples. I will be sending out a few short gratitude texts to family and friends TODAY! I am so grateful for you, your faith, your ministry and your Christlike friendship. You are a blessing to me!

Karen says:

Love that image, Melissa…the Lord showering us with blessings. When we consider the countless blessings He has bestowed on us and continues to extend to us, it seems selfish to hoard them all to ourselves and not extend generosity to others. I’m grateful for you too. You bless me!

I love this, Karen! I was just writing the other day about how easily we say we’re grateful, but they can just be words to say this time of year. It’s one thing to say that, but another thing to meditate on and praise God for what we truly are thankful for in our lives!

Karen says:

So true, Emily. I wonder if our “walk” matches our “talk” when it comes to gratitude? Something to think about for sure. Thanks for leaving your thoughts!

It’s easiest for me to be thankful – in my heart, in my head, even alone in my car! The hardest is to be generous. I am generous with my time but I find myself thinking, “What if we need that later?” when I KNOW I cannot out give God!
I like and accept the “Gratitude Dare.”

Karen says:

Thanks for accepting the dare, Beth. 🙂 And you are only saying what most of us have felt or thought: I can’t let go of this “thing” or money right now just in case. Our local Christian radio station is doing “Project Thanksgiving” right now. For only $25, we can feed a family of 4 with a complete meal of turkey, sides and dessert…and give them a Bible! As of yesterday, generous donars had given enough for nearly 3000 families! Amazing!

Jessica Brodie says:

Amen to this! When I feel stressed, I find it is harder to focus on gratitude. This is a good reminder to hold onto gratitude (which will also help with stress, ha!).

Karen says:

“…hold onto gratitude.” I like how you put that, Jessica. And in any circumstances…even stressful ones!

Lisa notes says:

What an insightful truth, Karen: “Grateful people are generous people. Generous people are grateful people.” I want to be that person.

Karen says:

Lisa, I know it holds true for me. When I’m grateful for all the many blessings from the Lord, I’m more generous with my time, money, service, love, gifts, and forgivenesss.

Anita Ojeda says:

I could do a lot better at expressing my gratefulness to friends and family. It’s something I always feel I need to work on. I love your wisdom that grateful people are generous people. May we all show our gratefulness with our generosity, especially towards people who are different from ourselves.

Karen says:

Anita, we can all do better, be more intentional in both expressing our gratefulness and in showing our generosity. Thank you for brining in others who are different from us! If we are only generous to people just like us, we are no different than someone who doesn’t believe in or serve God. True disciples see past differences to the heart.

The attitude of gratitude all year that is a challenge worth rising to Karen! One I do try to emulate but I must admit I do on occasion get the grumbles!
Bless you,
Jennifer

Karen says:

Ha! Everyone gets a case of the grumbles sometimes, Jennifer. I sure do. Praying as we find ways to be more grateful, those grumbles become ever so tiny and less frequent.

BettieG says:

Since I’ve been walking through Chronic Illness, this season of loss has actually stirred up a deeper gratitude in my heart for all of the blessings that I do have. It’s amazing how sometimes we need to be brought to a standstill in order to really see how deeply those blessings do go. Thanks for this great post!

Karen says:

Great insight, Bettie. I agree, it’s ofen in our pain and suffering that we look up and realize the countless blessings overflowing in our lives from a good, good Father.

Love this. Gratitude can feel hard for me sometimes. I feel like I say the same things over and over (not that there is anything wrong with that.) But I always feel like I’m doing it wrong. Thank you for reminding me how to walk out gratitude!

Karen says:

Thanks, Rebecca. I guess gratitude is at risk for becoming “trite” or only words with no real heart behind the sentiments. But, don’t think repetition is a bad thing. Because our loved ones and our Lord never tires of hearing us express how grateful we are!

Linda Stoll says:

Karen, hi! I love the way you’ve linked up gratitude and generosity. They are like a hand in a glove … one feeds and encourages the other.

And we all end up blessed … especially the One we love most.

Bless you.

Karen says:

Hey Linda, I truly believe gratefulness and being generous are interwoven. It’s up to us to keep them married and together.

Great reminders for any time of the year. laurensparks.net

Karen says:

Thank you, Lauren. I do hope and pray counting our blessings isn’t just about November or the Thanksgiving holiday.

Gratefulness is high on my list and prevalent from my lips. Blessings to you and yours during this season of Thanksgiving.

Karen, this is a great, and practical, list. I love how specific you are in offering ways to cultivate gratitude in our hearts and lives.

I think the easiest for me is being thankful. I enjoy counting blessings, but when I try to encourage our sons to do this, it’s a bit . . . more challenging. But, we do it anyway. 🙂

[…] For more on ThanksGiving and living, see my challenge The Gratitude Dare. […]

One of my most favorite moments of every year is when we gather around the table and everyone shares three things we’re grateful for. Sometimes the gratitude is a gentle ribbing of a sibling. Sometimes it’s profound and tearful. My hope is that we will be thankful for each other throughout the year–and for all the blessings we might otherwise take for granted. Great post!

Karen says:

I enjoy that tradition as well, Nancy. Glad to hear your family incorporates that. “Enter his gates with thanksgiving, and his courts with praise! Give thanks to him; bless his name!” Psalm 100:4 (ESV)

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